Debra has great "presence." She is charismatic and, to borrow a phrase I've heard her use about others, she has considerable power. Debra is the kind of person who, when she enters a room, other people present will stop, look and lose their train of thought.  Some might also call it the purest of auras or an "exuded persona." Debra also has a very rare knack -- in fact "knack" is a poor word choice... it is more like a "gift" or "skill."  To engage people in a way that disarms them, draws them in makes them feel important... changes them.  In her case her gift and skill is genuine not calculating. There is a kind of magic in how she does it.  She is truly one-of-kind. Debra is genuinely interested in others.   It isn't a put-on or for show. She does not rubbernecks for others. She never acts as if she is patiently (or impatiently) waiting to say something as soon as the person is finished speaking. In moments when she feels as if she has given too much, expended herself, counseled without letup, or listened with great intensity,....  she does her letdown in private and never otherwise offers a clue that she needs a break.  She is untiringly selfless. Debra cares deeply for her children and all children. She wants what's best for them and makes great sacrifices to see to their needs and happiness. Debra is interested and talented in so many, many things. She has a contagious excitement for life, learning and laughter.   She never pretends if she doesn't know something.   She seizes the opportunity to indulge in amassing information and insights. These just touch upon the many, many virtues she possesses.  Debra is a remarkable and amazing human being.  No one, including myself, who is touched by her unconditional love and  sensuous beauty, will ever be the same. Dr. P